The older I've gotten, the less I've enjoyed weddings. Generally. When I was
younger and all the single men were called together to maul each other and try
to catch the bride's garter, I always joined the melee. As a young buck myself,
I blended in just fine. However as I got older and was still "single" even
though I felt "married" to my partner, I started to be self conscious and a
little less willing to stand out as a "confirmed bachelor". ( when I look
back,,,I think quite a few of the confirmed bachelors that I knew were probably
gay).
About that time I started heading to the men's room to hide for a few
minutes when I sensed that the garter thing was about to be announced.
The other reason I'm not crazy about attending weddings has to do with
dancing. My partner and I have been together for 30 years, and we've been to a
whole lot of weddings together. We dance with all the female cousins and older
women and young girls whose husbands look twice as bored as I am, but my partner
and I never dance together...except sometimes in a group chicken dance or
electric slide. Except once.
Recently we were invited to a gay wedding for two lesbian women that we've
known for about a hundred years. The reception was typical, good food, open bar,
mixed group of 100 or so, and great music. There were kids there and some
elderly relatives and a general atmosphere of good will. When things were
quieting down a bit (no garters or bouquet tossing) they started to play Perry
Como's " Its Impossible" and I felt it would be impossible not to dance. So for
the first time in public, the guy that I've been with since 1981
and I danced together. Talk about gay rights and civil rights and human
rights....what a big deal that felt like..just a 3 minute dance together. Near
the end of the song we decided to "cut in" on a straight couple that we also
knew. My guy danced with the woman, and I danced with her husband. He's a great
guy, and said to me " I've never danced with a man before", and I replied " Well
this is only my second time."
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Jersey Joe, October 21, 2011 - 04:18 PM
I guess I am the self conscience one. About thirty years ago this pal of mine and myself use to like to have a drink every Easter night. My recollection was that Jacks on the southside was our normal easter night drink and it was closed.
Neither of us are gay. Mt pal did not want to break our tradition so he suggests this bar downtown. He knew of the gay bar by way that a fellow we knew had a grandmother who owned the place.
He let it slip as we got closer to the door. We did not go in. We went to the VFW and got signed in.
Ceejai, maybe your husband just wanted to see the gals get it on. WE all have our secrets. I just blew mine.
Now if this is not wild, many years later my wife and I own a pizza shop that became a Friday night gay gathering place which made us feel pretty good about ourselves.
MM, just to add to my collection of useless trivia does your guy refer to as "my guy" as well or is there a different address for you?
Neither of us are gay. Mt pal did not want to break our tradition so he suggests this bar downtown. He knew of the gay bar by way that a fellow we knew had a grandmother who owned the place.
He let it slip as we got closer to the door. We did not go in. We went to the VFW and got signed in.
Ceejai, maybe your husband just wanted to see the gals get it on. WE all have our secrets. I just blew mine.
Now if this is not wild, many years later my wife and I own a pizza shop that became a Friday night gay gathering place which made us feel pretty good about ourselves.
MM, just to add to my collection of useless trivia does your guy refer to as "my guy" as well or is there a different address for you?
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Jersey Joe, October 23, 2011 - 03:50 AM
I guess that was my fault. I did not mean street address. I was trying to be cute and was asking if you refer to each other as my guy or is one my guy and the other something else?
I hope you understand that on the one hand me offering you friendship is not the same as approving of your life style as a strict Catholic.
See Deut 22:5.
See Rom 7:15-25.
see (1 Cor 6:9-11)
I hope you understand that on the one hand me offering you friendship is not the same as approving of your life style as a strict Catholic.
See Deut 22:5.
See Rom 7:15-25.
see (1 Cor 6:9-11)
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rnm44, October 26, 2011 - 08:50 AM
Hi Joe
I don't expect anyone to approve of my lifestyle, I do however believe that they have to tolerate it. I'm curious about how you observe other verses in the Bible that require that women keep their heads covered...that men must wera a beard...that shellfish should not be eaten...or that if a man marries a woman and finds out that she is not a virgin then she should be executed....or that owning a slave is a good thing.... I'll get back to you with the exact readings and numbered verses.
I don't expect anyone to approve of my lifestyle, I do however believe that they have to tolerate it. I'm curious about how you observe other verses in the Bible that require that women keep their heads covered...that men must wera a beard...that shellfish should not be eaten...or that if a man marries a woman and finds out that she is not a virgin then she should be executed....or that owning a slave is a good thing.... I'll get back to you with the exact readings and numbered verses.
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Great stuff! We're getting there...finally. Way too slowly, but you've made one small *dance* step for man, one giant leap for mankind.
Back in the day, when I wasn't so self-conscious about dancing, my best friend and I would frequent the gay clubs in Champaign Illinois. They were cleaner. People dressed nicer. The music was better and we never got hassled.
Later, I found out my husband liked those clubs for the same reason!