How's about this scenario. You and I are soldiers andwe become good buddies. I'm gay and you're straight. You ask me if I have a "signifigant other" ( I have had one for 5 years ) I say yes. You ask me what her name is...and I have to lie to you because his name is Josh. You and I are wounded together out on patrol, and the army needs to notify your wife,I can't ask them to notify Josh (lie again). We both get flown home to an ICU hospital...your wife comes tobe by your side. Josh can't sit by mine. God forbid we both die....your wife gets handed the flag...Josh stands in the crowd...nobody even know who he is...nor do they offer any sympathy. This is a very plausible scenario....before Don't Ask Don't Tell was repealed. It's not about sex all the time."

I think the significant lie would be the one to get into the army.  My dad taught the truth at all cost.  He had two buddy's who acquired girlfriends while still living with their wives, neither ever entered our house again.

In your scenario, once we became good buddy's I would expect the truth.  I would remind you to live the truth.  I would remind you the army is not a job.

You would know your secret is intact.  You would also know of my expectations.  Your truth would be on you.

For a private reason I once had a pal who needed tough love, we did not speak for two years until he knocked on my door and thanked me just two weeks before he died, praise the Lord.

My class had 26 students in it.  30 years after graduation a friend revealed to me that he was gay.  He did so asking me to keep it between the two of us and I did with always talking of revealing the truth.

In a couple of years he thanked me and asked me to tell everyone for him and I did just a few months before he passed away.

In your scenario you would see how lies build your soul in a downward motion.

You would come to realize I believe that putting your mate into a position of being alone could have and subsequently would have brought the truth out if you were seriously wanting to be a good person and acted accordingly.

Sorry it took me so long long to reply but I hope you understand I took your request seriously.